| Location | Lytham St Annes |
| Age | 8 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Death | 11/2008 |
| Visitors | 4,600 since 03/12/2008 |
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Joshua Aldred, of Lytham St Annes, near Blackpool, in Lancashire, was found dead in his bedroom
within minutes of "having a strop" about doing his homework.
His death came 11 weeks after his mother, Sarah, 42, died from breast cancer and three months before
the first anniversary of his grandfather dying in a hospice.
The coroner for Blackpool, Anne Hind, said: "In nearly 20 years I think it is the saddest story I
have ever heard".
She told the child's remaining family: "We know Joshua missed his mummy very much, but he was coping
very well. He was going on with his life and his school marks had not deteriorated.
"I have heard the tragedies that have beset this family. Within a year Jason Aldred has lost his
father, his beloved wife and his only child. Mrs Aldred has lost her husband and grandson. This is a
terrible, terrible tragedy. I cannot tell you how my heart has gone out to you and how I have prayed
for you."
Mrs Hind acknowledged that Joshua had intended to hang himself, but recorded a verdict of death by
misadventure on the grounds that he had not understood the consequences of his actions."
The child's father, Jason, 41, said he thought his only child had slipped a tie over his bed rail
"because he missed his mother's hugs".
He was too upset to give evidence in person. Instead, he sat crying in the courtroom has his
statement was read out.
Mr Aldred, an IT architect, recalled how the family decided against hiding news of his wife's
illness from their son.
Four years ago she learned that as well as breast cancer she had developed cancer of the skin. Her
condition meant that doctors had to remove her ovaries.
"This was when Josh asked Sarah and myself if he could have a brother or a sister. We told him why
he couldn't."
In the summer of 2006 Mr Aldred's father, John, was admitted to a hospice. Joshua visited him there
but seemed to cope with the situation. He attended his funeral when he died the following
September.
Six months later, on March 17, Joshua lost his mother when she developed first cellulitis and later
septicaemia.
"I decided to let him finish his school day as normal," said his father. "At 4.30pm I picked him up
and we took him to Fairhaven Lake. I told him that his mum had died that day. He sat on my knee and
we both cried."
That evening the little boy attended football training as normal. "It may have been then that he
said he missed his mother's hugs," said his father.
Over the next few weeks Joshua occasionally awoke during the night, and on two occasions slept in
his father's bed. At his mother's funeral he appeared no more upset than the rest of the family.
He seemed to carry on as "a normal, happy, well-adjusted little boy", and became excited at the
prospect of he and his father going sailing around the Mediterranean for two years.
But on June 5 he had a "strop" with his grandmother when she insisted he did his homework rather
than watch television.
He eventually stormed off to his bedroom. Mrs Aldred let him go, intending to let him cool off
before sitting down with him so they could talk about it.
About five minutes later she went upstairs and found him lying dead beside his bed.
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|####|................ |♥ GOODNIGHT
\####/..... __ __ / ♥ ANGEL X x X
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Seeing an angel always reminds me
That although you aren't here
You're being embraced by angels
So there is not a thing to fear
And someday I shall see you again
With a smile upon your face
Because this is what God has promised
Once I leave this earthly place
☆
A golden heart stopped beating,
Two smiling eyes at rest,
God broke your familys hearts to prove to them,
He only takes the best.
SWEET DREAMS BEAUTIFUL ANGEL.XxXxXxXx
♥ If i could wish upon a star ♥
♥ I would wish for you back here ♥
♥ I know you're happy where you are ♥
♥ But i miss you and want you near ♥
♥ Although i see you everyday ♥
♥ In my thoughts and in my dreams ♥
♥ I miss you more than words can say ♥
♥ It just gets worse, it seems ♥
♥ I try to be strong for others around ♥
♥ But all i want to do is cry ♥
♥ I just sit for hours by myself ♥
♥ And ask the question 'Why'? ♥
♥ It's the strongest pain I've ever felt ♥
♥ I don't think I could describe it ♥
♥ Although I try, I do my best ♥
♥ I don't think that I can hide it ♥
♥ My life will never be the same ♥
♥ That's why it's hard to bear ♥
♥ Because since the day you left us ♥
♥ I think that life's not fair ♥
♥ Some things seem not to matter now ♥
♥ Even things that mattered before ♥
♥ You have no idea what I would give up ♥
♥ To make this pain less sore ♥
♥ People say we'll meet again ♥
♥ And yeah I know that's true ♥
♥ But I wish it didn't have to be this way ♥
♥ Because you know how much I miss you ♥
♥ I love you with all my heart and soul ♥
♥ And there's one thing you need to know ♥
♥ There's not one person in the human race ♥
♥ That could ever take your place ♥
♥ღ♥
I have not turned my back on you,
so there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven,
just beyond the morning sky.
I've seen you almost fall apart,
when you could barely stand.
I asked the Lord to comfort you,
and watched him take your hand.
He told me you are in more pain,
then I could ever be.
He wiped his eyes and swallowed hard,
then gave your hand to me.
Although you may not feel my touch,
or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you,
while I wiped each tear you cried.
So please try not to ache for me,
we'll meet again one day,
beyond the dark and stormy sky,
a Rainbow lights the way.
♥ღ♥
☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆
Every day and every night
when you feel the need to hold me tight.
Just blow a kiss into the sky
for i will be that close by.
In the heavens throughout the day
i watch over you and hear you pray.
I see you smile and shed a tear
for you know that I'm still near.
I am the angel of your eye
I am your angel in the sky
☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆.•*☆
With love xxx
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ~♥x♥~ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
LITTLE FAIRY ROSES JUST FOR YOU
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Love always Carol....xx
✳:*: ✳:*:✳ :*:✳:*:✳:*: ✳:
SEARCH YOUR MIND
FOR THOSE YOU SEEK
CLOSE YOUR EYES
AND TAKE A PEEK.
THEY ARE HERE FOR YOU TO SEE,
FOR MEMORIES ARE SAFE FOR ETERNITY,
HELD TIGHT SOMEWHERE INSIDE YOUR MIND,
IT'S ONLY THE PATH YOU NEED TO FIND.
LOVE AND DESIRE
WILL SHOW YOU THE WAY
TO BRING THOSE YOU HOLD DEAR
CLOSER TODAY.
SO CLOSE YOUR EYES
AND TAKE A PEEK.
SEARCH YOUR MIND
FOR THOSE YOU SEEK.
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Whenever I daydream,
and day dream I do,
In my secret garden,
I dream of you.
~
I day dream of you,
In a faraway land,
hugging me tight
and holding my hand.
~
Holding my hand
and touching my face.
Just you and me
In this peaceful place.
~
In this peaceful place
a pristine river flows,
where the unicorns run
and a breeze always blows.
~
A breeze always blows,
and sings of a song,
Our love in a place
Where you're never gone.
~
Where you're never gone
Is as it would seem,
from dusk till dawn,
Whenever I day dream.
~
And whenever I day dream,
and day dream I do,
In my secret garden,
I day dream of you.
Sent with love ♥
Why when your so special
Why when your so young
Everybody loved you,
And your life had just begun,
♥⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰
Why do we have trouble sleeping,
Have tears on our pillow case
Its because we long to see you
With that smile upon your face,
♥⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰
Why did you have to leave us,
Why did we have to part,
The worse day of our life that day,
And it really broke our heart.
♥⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰⊱♥⊰~⊱♥⊰
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