| Location | Lytham St Annes |
| Age | 8 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Death | 11/2008 |
| Visitors | 4,601 since 03/12/2008 |
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Joshua Aldred, of Lytham St Annes, near Blackpool, in Lancashire, was found dead in his bedroom
within minutes of "having a strop" about doing his homework.
His death came 11 weeks after his mother, Sarah, 42, died from breast cancer and three months before
the first anniversary of his grandfather dying in a hospice.
The coroner for Blackpool, Anne Hind, said: "In nearly 20 years I think it is the saddest story I
have ever heard".
She told the child's remaining family: "We know Joshua missed his mummy very much, but he was coping
very well. He was going on with his life and his school marks had not deteriorated.
"I have heard the tragedies that have beset this family. Within a year Jason Aldred has lost his
father, his beloved wife and his only child. Mrs Aldred has lost her husband and grandson. This is a
terrible, terrible tragedy. I cannot tell you how my heart has gone out to you and how I have prayed
for you."
Mrs Hind acknowledged that Joshua had intended to hang himself, but recorded a verdict of death by
misadventure on the grounds that he had not understood the consequences of his actions."
The child's father, Jason, 41, said he thought his only child had slipped a tie over his bed rail
"because he missed his mother's hugs".
He was too upset to give evidence in person. Instead, he sat crying in the courtroom has his
statement was read out.
Mr Aldred, an IT architect, recalled how the family decided against hiding news of his wife's
illness from their son.
Four years ago she learned that as well as breast cancer she had developed cancer of the skin. Her
condition meant that doctors had to remove her ovaries.
"This was when Josh asked Sarah and myself if he could have a brother or a sister. We told him why
he couldn't."
In the summer of 2006 Mr Aldred's father, John, was admitted to a hospice. Joshua visited him there
but seemed to cope with the situation. He attended his funeral when he died the following
September.
Six months later, on March 17, Joshua lost his mother when she developed first cellulitis and later
septicaemia.
"I decided to let him finish his school day as normal," said his father. "At 4.30pm I picked him up
and we took him to Fairhaven Lake. I told him that his mum had died that day. He sat on my knee and
we both cried."
That evening the little boy attended football training as normal. "It may have been then that he
said he missed his mother's hugs," said his father.
Over the next few weeks Joshua occasionally awoke during the night, and on two occasions slept in
his father's bed. At his mother's funeral he appeared no more upset than the rest of the family.
He seemed to carry on as "a normal, happy, well-adjusted little boy", and became excited at the
prospect of he and his father going sailing around the Mediterranean for two years.
But on June 5 he had a "strop" with his grandmother when she insisted he did his homework rather
than watch television.
He eventually stormed off to his bedroom. Mrs Aldred let him go, intending to let him cool off
before sitting down with him so they could talk about it.
About five minutes later she went upstairs and found him lying dead beside his bed.
SWEET DREAMS JOSHUA.
Good night sweet angel it is time to sleep
The night is silent
The breeze is slight
My thoughts wander
of you at night
I hope to see you in my dreams
Snuggled up tight in your
Bright white wings
The day is ending our love has not
You are with me every night
I just wish I could kiss you goodnight
Goodnight my darling
I hope you sleep tight
Goodnight sweet angel
Goodnight xXx Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
copyright@ Jo Dalton 2009
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R.I.P JOSHUA
REST YOUR WEARY HEAD AND DRIFT OFF INTO DREAMS,
FROLIC IN THE SUNSHINE AND BATHE IN GODS MOONBEAMS.
USE THE STARS AS STEPPING-STONES TO TAKE YOU TO YOUR PEACE,
THE PAIN OF LIFE FORGOTTEN NOW YOU HAVE FOUND RELEASE
WITH OUT RAIN A FLOWER FOLDS,THE PETAL DROP AND DIE,
THERE WAS NO WAY TO SAVE YOU,YOU COULDNT EVEN CRY.
SO WE CRY ALL THE TEARS INSTEAD AS WE MUST LET YOU GO,
TO HEAVEN AND GODS GARDEN TO BLOSSOM AND TO GROW.
THE LITTLE SEED IS PLANTED,YOU'LL BE WATERED EVEY DAY,
THE ANGELS WILL TEND ALL YOUR NEEDS AS IN THEIR ARMS YOU LAY.
YOUR LIFE WILL BE AMAZING NOW AND FULL OF WONDEROUS THINGS,
REST IN PEACE DEAR SWEET JOSHUA,GO FLY ON ANGELS WINGS.
(Author unknown)
FOR MY LITTLE ANGEL FRIEND
Somewhere over the rainbow
Way up high
There's a land that I heard of
Once in a lullaby
Somewhere over the rainbow
Skies are blue
And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true
Some day I'll wish upon a star
And wake up where the clouds are far behind me
Where troubles melt like lemondrops
Away above the chimney tops
That's where you'll find me
Somewhere over the rainbow
Bluebirds fly
Birds fly over the rainbow
Why then, oh why can't I?
Some day I'll wish upon a star
And wake up where the clouds are far behind me
Where troubles melt like lemondrops
Away above the chimney tops
That's where you'll find me
Somewhere over the rainbow
Bluebirds fly
Birds fly over the rainbow
Why then, oh why can't I?
If happy little bluebirds fly
Beyond the rainbow
Why, oh why can't I?
You Will Never Be Forgotten,
You Will Always Be Forever In My Heart.xxx
To dad
I'm writing this from heaven, where I dwell with God above.
Where there's no more tears or sadness, there's just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I am out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
And I will stay beside you, every day, week and year
And when you're sad I'll still be there to wipe away your tears.
When you think of my life on earth and all those living years
Because your only human their bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry it does relieve the pain
Remember there wouldn't be flowers unless we first had rain.
I wish I could tell you of all that God has planned
But even if I were able to, you wouldn't understand.
When your going down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps and only half a step behind.
And if you feel a gentle breeze or wind upon your face
Remember it's only me with a loving and soft embrace.
P.S. God sends His Love
ㄨㄨㄨ
Each night we shed a silent tear,
As we speak to you in prayer.
To let you know we love you,
And just how much we care.
Take our million teardrops,
Wrap them up in love,
Then ask the wind to carry them,
To you in heaven above.
ㄨㄨㄨ
Love always Carol....ㄨㄨㄨ
ჱܓ
I looked towards the clouds today
And for a moment saw your face.
I wondered just where you have gone
With hope it's a better place.
Did you show yourself to me today,
To tell me you're all right?
Or was it just a daydream
Playing tricks upon my sight?
ჱܓ
We will always feel the void inside
Because you are not here.
But each new thought you send our way
Lets us know you're near.
So until our journey nears its end
And we hear the angels sing,
We'll face each new day as it comes
And live off the love you bring.
ჱܓ
HAPPY EASTER
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Sometimes life's most precious things,
Slip too quickly from our hands,
Snowflakes, rainbows, childhood,
Castles in the sand.
God gave us a special spot,
to preserve them in our hearts,
A forever place where all we love,
lingers when we part.
Fireflies and autumn leaves,
Roses, kittens, dreams,
Icicles, sunrise, spider webs,
Mornings dew, moon beams.
Butterflies and baby birds,
Flowers that bloom in spring,
Perhaps in life God's greatest gifts,
Are blessed by Him with wings.
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FLYING LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU JOSHUA
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