| Location | Lytham St Annes |
| Age | 8 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Death | 11/2008 |
| Visitors | 4,508 since 03/12/2008 |
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Joshua Aldred, of Lytham St Annes, near Blackpool, in Lancashire, was found dead in his bedroom
within minutes of "having a strop" about doing his homework.
His death came 11 weeks after his mother, Sarah, 42, died from breast cancer and three months before
the first anniversary of his grandfather dying in a hospice.
The coroner for Blackpool, Anne Hind, said: "In nearly 20 years I think it is the saddest story I
have ever heard".
She told the child's remaining family: "We know Joshua missed his mummy very much, but he was coping
very well. He was going on with his life and his school marks had not deteriorated.
"I have heard the tragedies that have beset this family. Within a year Jason Aldred has lost his
father, his beloved wife and his only child. Mrs Aldred has lost her husband and grandson. This is a
terrible, terrible tragedy. I cannot tell you how my heart has gone out to you and how I have prayed
for you."
Mrs Hind acknowledged that Joshua had intended to hang himself, but recorded a verdict of death by
misadventure on the grounds that he had not understood the consequences of his actions."
The child's father, Jason, 41, said he thought his only child had slipped a tie over his bed rail
"because he missed his mother's hugs".
He was too upset to give evidence in person. Instead, he sat crying in the courtroom has his
statement was read out.
Mr Aldred, an IT architect, recalled how the family decided against hiding news of his wife's
illness from their son.
Four years ago she learned that as well as breast cancer she had developed cancer of the skin. Her
condition meant that doctors had to remove her ovaries.
"This was when Josh asked Sarah and myself if he could have a brother or a sister. We told him why
he couldn't."
In the summer of 2006 Mr Aldred's father, John, was admitted to a hospice. Joshua visited him there
but seemed to cope with the situation. He attended his funeral when he died the following
September.
Six months later, on March 17, Joshua lost his mother when she developed first cellulitis and later
septicaemia.
"I decided to let him finish his school day as normal," said his father. "At 4.30pm I picked him up
and we took him to Fairhaven Lake. I told him that his mum had died that day. He sat on my knee and
we both cried."
That evening the little boy attended football training as normal. "It may have been then that he
said he missed his mother's hugs," said his father.
Over the next few weeks Joshua occasionally awoke during the night, and on two occasions slept in
his father's bed. At his mother's funeral he appeared no more upset than the rest of the family.
He seemed to carry on as "a normal, happy, well-adjusted little boy", and became excited at the
prospect of he and his father going sailing around the Mediterranean for two years.
But on June 5 he had a "strop" with his grandmother when she insisted he did his homework rather
than watch television.
He eventually stormed off to his bedroom. Mrs Aldred let him go, intending to let him cool off
before sitting down with him so they could talk about it.
About five minutes later she went upstairs and found him lying dead beside his bed.
Death is just another step
Along life’s changing way,
No more than just a gateway
To a new and better day.
And parting from our loved ones
Is much easier to bear,
When we know that they are waiting
For us to join them there.
So death is just a natural thing
Like the closing of a door,
As we start upon a journey
To a new and distant shore.
And none need make this journey
Undirected or alone,
For God promised us safe passage
To this vast and great unknown.
So let your grief be softened,
And yield not to despair,
You have only placed your loved one
In the loving Father’s care.
~ Helen Steiner Rice ~
GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LIKE A COMET,,,,,,BLAZING CROSS THE EVENING SKY,
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A RAINBOW,FADING IN THE COMING NIGHT,
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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SHINING,SPARKLING,AND SPLENDIDLY BRIGHT.
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HERE ONE DAY.,,.GONE ONE NIGHT.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A CLOTH OF SUNLIGHT ON A CLOUDY AFTERNOON.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A CASTLE BUILT UPON A SANDY BEACH.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A PERFECT LOVELY FLOWER, THAT IS
JUST BEYOND YOU"RE REACH.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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BORN TO LIVE IN SHEER DELIGHT,
HERE ONE DAY,GONE BY NIGHT.
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GONE TOO SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LIKE A SUNSET DAZZLED BY THE RISING MOON.
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GONE TOO SOON.
[A MICHAEL JACKSONG SONG].R.I.P..
R.I.P.ANGEL.XXXX
It's raining outside..
So cold and wet
Is it sunny in heaven?
It is I bet
Water falls from the sky..
Just like my tears..
That I cry
I cry so much..
And I hurt with pain
Since you went to heaven..
I've not been the same
I miss you so much..
As the days go by
My tears fall slowly..
As I wipe my eyes
I think of you..
With joy and pride
Please keep me safe..
And walk by my side
I look up to the sky..
As I think of you with love
My sweet Angel..
In heaven above
copyright© Jackie Thomas 29/07/09.
Love and Hugs Barbara xx
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When we are in need of comfort
We walk down memory lane,
There we see you smiling
We talk with you again,
And as we wander slowly back
We seem to hear you say
Don't grieve. don't cry, my family,
We'll meet again some day.
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I am now in Heaven,
The gates have opened wide,
And now I have the privilege
Of walking by His side.
The angel choir is singing
And the music is so sweet;
I'll join them just as soon
As I have worshiped at His feet.
I am now in Heaven,
The blood washed throng is here;
I recognize a lot of them,
There's not a single tear.
There's joy beyond description
And reunions by the score;
There'll be no more separations,
For we'll be here evermore.
I am now in Heaven,
Please wipe away your tears;
I've fought the battle, run the race,
And I'm rid of all my fears.
There is no pain or sorrow here,
The heartaches now are past;
I've read and sung of Heaven,
And now I'm here at last!
I am now in Heaven,
And oh, this place is grand!
No one could have ever told me
Of all the beauty in this land.
Since I cannot describe it,
You'll have to come and see
That it was worth the many trials
To live here for all eternity!
~ Author Unknown ~
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I would like to take this opportunity
To thank everyone for all the messages
And photographs that I have received
Since the birth of Our Third Grandson Millar Chris
They are all very much appreciated
I have read every single one
It’s brilliant to have a baby in the family again,
We are over the moon, but a little sad his
Uncle Christopher won’t get a chance to meet him,
He was a wonderful Uncle to our other two Grandson’s
Jack & Layton they miss him terribly… we all do.
Thanks again
Angela A Very Happy Gran X…. But A Very Sad Mum X
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Tributes for this weekend
FOR FRIDAY
Life is but a stopping place,
A pause in what's to be,
A resting place along the road,
To sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys,
Different paths along the way,
We are all meant to learn some things,
But never meant to stay.
Our destination is a place,
Far greater than we know,
For some the journey's quicker,
For some the journey's slow.
But when the journey finally ends,
We'll claim a great reward,
And find an everlasting peace,
Together with the Lord.
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FOR SATURDAY
Right now I'm in a different place
And though we seem apart
I'm closer than I ever was
... I'm there inside your heart
I'm with you when you greet each day
And while the sun shines bright
I'm there to share the sunsets, too
... I'm with you every night
I'm with you when the times are good
To share a laugh or two,
And if a tear should start to fall
... I'll still be there for you
And when that day arrives
That we no longer are apart,
I'll smile and hold you close to me
Forever in my heart
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FOR SUNDAY
I lose my grip on reality
On each day that passes by;
I haven't a clue where I'm headed
Oh how this pain makes me cry
My world is changing so quickly
And I'm losing everything in sight;
Why can't things go back to how it used to be
So that everything would be alright
Why do we have to lose the ones we love
It's just not fair, it's just not right;
Oh why God do you take them
Can't you see, I'm filled with fright
The days come and go
But the pain, it stays forever;
It never really leaves your soul
When you know, you'll no longer be together
Your heart, it's ripped wide open
And even though you try to hide;
It will break and bleed continuously
And feel as though it will never subside
I can take this pain no longer
Oh how it's killing me inside;
What suffering we have to go through
When the ones we love, have died
Thoughts Today, Memories Forever
Angela Christopher’s Very Proud Mum
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Gone Too Soon
G od took you gently by the hand,
O n wings of love to another land,
N estled in the clouds up high,
E ternal live he gave you in the sky,
T he ones left behind have broken hearts,
O h they did not want you to depart,
O ne day you will all meet again,
S aving a place and no more pain,
O n wings of love in Heaven above,
O ur hearts are filled with lots of love,
N ever more then a heartbeat away,
Gone too soon but remembered every single day.
Copyright @ Sandy
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Im no longer by your side,
But theres no need to weep,
Ive left sweet recollations,
Im hoping you will keep.
Eternal joy & memories,
Stay in our hearts forever,
Strengthening our special bond,
That parting cannot sever.
So now it’s time to journey on
Just let your faith be strong,
For I am in a better place…
Im home where I belong.
But, still, if times of loneliness
Bring sorrow & dismay,
Don’t dispair ,for I am there…
Just a memory away.
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